Entitlement is a distinction that comes from a person belief that they deserve to be honored, its the essence of the “Me” attitude. A demeanor of self-importance that comes with illusions of brilliance, power, etc. and a kin sense that the world owes them something in exchange for almost nothing.
This Just In!!!!!!
Contrary to the popular belief… No One Owes You Anything, you’re not entitled to anything but the privilege to be youself. If you’re holding someone else accountable to make all your dreams come true, then your are forcing yourself to be a target for disappointment. You can’t put your happiness in someone else’s hands because being happy is an extremely personal thing. You are 100% responsible to make that happen for yourself.
Stop crying about what someone did or didn’t do for you
No one can take anything from you that you didn’t give them
Be humble because entitlement is not your friend
Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not speaking on anything illegal, immoral, or unethical. Being a human being, following the rules, respecting one another, and treating others the way you want to be treated are all sensible notions to expect from your circle. But the fact of the matter is not one person owe it to you. If things aren’t going as planned, you can’t blame others for what you expected of them. If you want better then go get it for yourself.
I’m speaking from a place of experience. With so many turning tables that I’ve experienced throughout my life from losses of a great magnitude (I’ll get further into that in a later post) to creative blocks & unique paths of parenting. I’ve learned to take everything situation for what it is with no expectations (for the most part), clear and pure intentions, and an open mind. I put my big girl panties on, pour a drink, check my ego then take life like a G!!!
I took an unexpected hiatus for nearly 4 years, or whatever. So many things have caught me off guard ( so much for my “if you stay ready, you won’t have to get ready” motto). I have shameless allowed my mind to wonder into parts unknown and honestly got lost but I’m back. I’ve lived, grown, learned and evolved into Juanita 2.0. Still the same ole me but with an unapologetic twist, #BOOM! No, I won’t unload my brain all at once (your welcome), but you will most definitely get a glimpse of my world with raw and uncut content, bare with me. I am who I am, with that being said I happy that I am here to share with you my journey from devastating family loss, complicated relationships, parenthood circus, tapping back into my soul and creative nature- you know the things that have shaped me to who am today.
I have quit a few creative outlets that I have passionately re-pursued starting with (drum roll please)……………….
Look, at this point, stoked is an understatement in regards to my art shop where everything is handmade from wall art, painting, office supplies, candles, etc. Ohh Wee, 😁😁😁 from ear to ear (it hurts).
So, if I haven’t scared you off already, pull a set and follow me on my endeavors. No promises but I’m aiming to come on here with much needed post at least once a week. Stay Tuned!!!
When she smiles it always manages to melt my heart. Or when I hear her little squeaky voice on repeat mode saying “Mommy!”, ( as tragically annoying it could be) it will always melt my heart. Rewinding before that to the first time we officially met, the emotionally undescribable feeling of our skin to skin connected for the first time, we connected eyes and permantly attached our hearts as mother and daughter. Or even before that in her fetus stages, when she flutter her feet to me singing “Feel My Love” by Adele which solidified our attachment even more. Yes, motherhood has been pretty amazing for me.
Now of course it hasn’t been all rainbows and unicorns, its been extremely hard work (as any mother would agree). I have been given a blessing that is strong willed, melodramatic, highly sassy, frustratingly stubborn, dainty yet tough and her beautiful mind is out of this world ( and yes I’m tooting her horn). My toddler is the ultimate meaning of 10 Handfuls, a headache and laughter at the same time and no exaggeration needed here. In a nutshell, she’s just like me. She keeps me on my toes and send my level of protection through the roof when it comes to outsiders.
So much of my life has changes since she came alone and turned itbupsidedown in the most wonderful way. It is a complete privilege to be blessed with this opportunity, it’s worth every stretch mark and sleepless night. So bring on the tantrums, milestones, sticky kisses, neck hugs, boo boo’s, and all. I can’t wait to see what great beautiful woman she becomes.
Just here chiming in on a refreshing and uplifting book that I just read. You Are A Badass: How to Stop Doubting Your Greatness and Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero ( long headliner I know) is an entertaining how-to type of book that assisted you with reconfirming your awesomeness. Packed with stories that tickled me, familiar advice on how to see life through fresh eyes. Its a book that will get you back to reality and back on track to who you were meant to be.
In my opinion, it falls among all the other mid- life crisis how-to self coaching books but it does keep you engaged and focused on breaking any barrior that is holding you back from achieving your personal goals.
So yes, of course I would recommend this book to anyone out there who is in a rut and need that extra kick in the butt to make the necessary changes in life. Two thumbs up!!!
What’s the deal with women feeling to compete with one another? True that a little competition never hurt anyone, it’s healthy. But when it comes to the point that you come to dislike someone so much that you feel like you need to compete in an attempt to keep yourself relevant is where the line should be drawn. It’s like a need to elevate themselves by bringing another women down who have done nothing personally against them nor haven’t even met. You shut down, lash out, ice out and dryhater on the threat factor not realizing that your only exposing the thruth about yourself. You’re only perpetuating the stereotype and there’s nothing appealing or lady like about that.
I mean it makes sense on some level, I guess, when you feel invisible and in extreme need for attention, where that thirst become so real opening all doors to your ego. At that moment (in some cases not at all) you don’t realize how much you need that attention and you start to criticize and put down other women that you seem threatened by. Trying to compete due to long lived insecurities about yourself and try to prove that you are better than the other women you hate by throwing shade in a major way. Making excuses as to why you are throwing sneaky jabs at her character to make yourself feel superior. I have been on the recieving end of this situation a few times enough to call when i see it. Smh, I guess it’s a kind of a natural reaction that’s extremely hard for me to retain.
We really have to grow up and teach our kids better than this. Im not hinting at everyone being best friends because not every woman is on the same level. And I’m not suggesting to be phony about it but I am indeed hoping that we all respect each other in whatever we do. All women don’t walk the same path nor is given the same opportunities. You get what you get so work with what you have, stop blaming other women for your mistakes and mishaps. You’ve done what you had to do with what you had, don’t hate the next for receiving a similar hand and doing more with it. Just be the best you can be (sounds cliche I know but it fits) without all that envy and spite so that way you won’t feel the need to compare yourself to anyone in the first place, it’s hard “I know”. If only it was so easy to ignore them and keep being your awesome self, but then your awesomeness will still fuel their fire!
As women we are made to adapt. I have the faintest idea as to why but that’s just the way we are programmed. We maneuver throughout daily activities routinely. It’s a second nature to us like breathing. Our adaption makes it so easy for us to be so many things to different people like our children, spouses, coworkers, friend and whoever else makes the cut in our everyday lives. We transform throughout each day to give what is needed of us to each party and quite often forget about ourselves.
I, and many other, are here to aid in representing the many sides of a woman and everything in between. Revealing the good & bad, happy & sad, wins & loses and whatever else is on my mind that only like minded peers can relate to. Please accept my open & honest conversations and advice on topic that we all live everyday. Everyone’s experience is different, none of journeys are the same but we all can relate.
This year has been one of the most pivotal year for me thus far. Changes in my life that I’ve never considered to be an option surfaced in a major way. Never in a millions years did I think I would be where I am now. In a month or so I will officially be a mommy. WOW!! I know, that was my reaction as well as my family’s upon this anouncement. I was the last person that anyone thought would have kids. Not because I wasn’t good with them, I’m actually quit great with kids- everyone loves Auntie Nita😊 Which was a title that I was completely fine with for the long run. It was such a surprise because I wasn’t available for the option. I’ve never considered opening up to a healthy relationship so morally, in return, I refused to allow myself to create a child to bring into my unwillingness to open up. Its the truest fact that when you find love you’re hopelessly caught and in return I became willing to have that mommy title. Prior to the love that found me and love on the way, I was completely independent and always on the go, I allowed nothing nor no one to slow me down. Worked long hours to keep and maintain my lifestyle by myself, thought that was all I need- that and the ever so often sexual healing (not to be confused with promiousness). My mentality was to block any and every distraction because I didn’t want to take the time out to get to know anyone and vice versa. But like I said when you’re caught, you’re caught- no hiding nor running from love. So I would say that this is the start of my journey, a new chapter in my life. Excited to raise a wonderful young lady with a man that continue to prove that this is where his heart his. So many changes in a year and I’m quit sure that it’s many more to come and I I’m ready for that.
I swear my brain functions at the speed of 100 mph and never stopping to recuperate, you know energizer bunny type of thing. Overlapping thoughts make it nearly impossible to allow my body to catch up. Most of it comes from dealing with feelings that are easy (to understand) on the surface by definition but not so easy to process in life. About the simple things in life that aren’t so simple. Its a gift and a curse because at times its a good thing to feel everything do deeply but at other times its not so great. That’s why I created this blog, to attempt to capture my thoughts as they rummage in my mind. This being one of the most climactic point of my life, what better time to do it than now. I have no intentions in strictening myself to one particular niche, no topic is taboo. So with that being said I invite you into my world and get to know me as a hard worker, artist , and soon to be first time mother. Feel free to comment and I’m open for advice.